Been listening to a lot of Retro musics lately. Don’t know why.
When you have an intern in office, chatting with them makes you feels really old. Comparing their school days experience with your school days experience makes you realise that you are era apart. That it was almost 2 decades ago when you first started drinking and went clubbing.
I still remember being 20 and unable to enter a club that have minimum age requirements of 23. I remember swearing that I will go to that club when I’m 23. And when I reach 23, the club had already closed down. Lol.
A lot of these memories seems like it just happened a few years ago. Then suddenly I realised that these memories were actually more than 10 years already. Time really flies when you are not paying attention.
Was browsing YouTube when I stumble upon a video teaching people how to do the Mambo handsign dance move. The video brought back lots of memories. Memories of the days before entering National Service when I hang out at Venom with a group of friends on Thursday night. It was Retro Night and yes, I used to remember how to do those handsign for popular retro songs. Those were the days.
And I remember going to a rather empty pub with a few friends during my poly days. There was another group of customers in their 40s and 50s. I remember that night because they keep asking the DJ to play Forever Young by Alphaville. I can’t remember exactly how many times that song was played. But I guess at least 4 or 5 times that night. And they hit the dance floor and dance like we youngsters. Back then, we find it funny and amusing. Looking back, maybe that was their anthem. A song that they can really relate to.
And now, when I’m about to turn 35, I guess I can really relate to that song too.
So many adventures couldn’t happen today,
So many songs we forgot to play,
So many dreams swinging out of the blue,
We’ll let them come true.
I don’t understand. Why was my comment deleted? Which Facebook Community Standards did I not follow? The notice from Facebook wasn’t clear. It just said I didn’t follow their Community Standards. As far as I can see, there is nothing wrong with my comments.
And here’s my issue with Facebook’s Community Team. There is no avenue for us to dispute their decision. I personally feel that there is nothing wrong with my comment and it shouldn’t be deleted. By deleting my comment, Facebook is denying my freedom of speech. But there is no way that I can contact Facebook’s Community Team. It’s as if their say is final and we have to accept all their decision, whether right or wrong.
And if Facebook’s Community Team is really doing their job, how come they didn’t take any action on The Real Singapore earlier? What about sites like STOMP? What is their stand on these Facebook page that are promoting hate? You mean they are not going against Facebook’s Community Standards?
What exactly is Facebook Community Standards anyway? I see so many things that are not following their standards everyday yet no action was taken. My comment clearly didn’t go against their standard and was deleted from Facebook. What nonsense is this?
And to make things worse, after deleting my comment, Facebook logs me out of every single application that uses Facebook login. At first I thought they just log me out of the Facebook and Messenger app on my iPhone. So I just re-login to those app. Then I discovered that they also log me out on desktop. OK, fine. I’ll just login again.
To my horror, they even log me out of all other apps that uses Facebook login. I have to re-login my Spotify app. Then I have a few games on my iPhone that is linked to Facebook which I need to re-login again. Even Tinder needs to re-login. Basically for the whole yesterday, I’ve been re-logging in to all the apps that uses Facebook login.
Which makes me realise something. I am depending too much on Facebook. What if Facebook decides to ban me one day for another stupid “not following Facebook Community Standards” reasoning? Will I still be able to use Spotify which I paid monthly subscription? Will I still be able to play my iPhone games? Will I still be able to chat with girls I got matched on Tinder?
Perhaps this is a good reminder to me and everyone. We are relying too much on Facebook. To the extend that if one day they decide to abuse their power, we have no avenue to seek redress. I think it is time for me to de-link all non-Facebook app from using Facebook login. So at least next time if Facebook decide to delete another of my post, I won’t need to go through the trouble of re-logging in to every freaking apps I have.
Saw this Ted Talk video by Monica Lewinsky on Youtube. I think it is a timely video and would be great if you could spare 22 minutes to listen to what she is sharing.
Watching this video made me think about things that happened in Singapore over the past few months. Like the US and UK, we are seeing a rise in cyberbullying and online harassment. Publishing private and confidential details about someone online and making death threats are getting more and more common these days. We are lucky that none of the victims committed suicide yet. But it is time for us to put a stop to all these negative online behaviour before it is too late.
Cruelty to others is nothing new, but online, technologically enhanced shaming is amplified, uncontained, and permanently accessible. The echo of embarrassment used to extend only as far as your family, village, school or community, but now it’s the online community too. Millions of people, often anonymously, can stab you with their words, and that’s a lot of pain, and there are no perimeters around how many people can publicly observe you and put you in a public stockade. There is a very personal price to public humiliation, and the growth of the Internet has jacked up that price.
We are often encouraging these cyberbullying and online harassment without knowing. A marketplace has emerged where public humiliation is a commodity and shame is an industry. All these while when we are clicking and sharing these content, someone is benefitting from someone else’s suffering. Either through monetary gain from advertising or just raise in fame. And the more we click, the more it encourages others to join in.
The more we saturate our culture with public shaming, the more accepted it is, the more we will see behavior like cyberbullying, trolling, some forms of hacking, and online harassment.
We don’t have organisation like Tyler Clementi Foundation or Anti-Bullying Pro here in Singapore. Personally I hope that we won’t need to have one. Let’s put a stop to all the cyberbullying and online harassment. Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop now before it is too late.
Yesterday was the last day to drink legally in public after 10:30pm in Singapore. The Liquor Control (Supply and Consumption) Bill kicks in on 1st April 2015 and it prohibits drinking in public places such as void decks, parks and on the streets from 10.30pm to 7am. Retail sales of alcohol from 10:30pm will also be banned.
So on my way home last night, I decided to pop by 7-11 and grab a bottle of cider. I forgotten when was the last time I drank in public place. As I grow older, I find myself drinking only at places that serve alcohol or a my friend’s house. So to be frank, the new law does not affect me at all. But I’m just sick of this overregulation. Why can’t I have a drink in public places after 10:30pm if I don’t disturb anyone? The law should be targeting at people who create trouble after drinking, not people who are drinking in public.
Just because you have some people creating a mess after having a few drinks doesn’t mean that everyone will do that.