Shouldn't a relationship be just between the 2 person?

Was chatting with a friend few days ago when she said that her mum mentioned that one of her guy friend not bad, can be a good husband. I began teasing him, telling him to start action now. 1/3 of the battle has already been won. When he ask what is 1/3 of the battle, my reply is, 1/3 is her parents, 1/3 is your parents and the remaining 1/3 is the girl.
OK, it’s just a joke. But sadly, this is the truth in most cases. In fact, sometimes, the battle is even being split into 4 parts, plus the friends. I always wonder…. why is a relationship split into so many considering factor? Shouldn’t a relationship be just between the 2 person? Why is there a need for so many people’s approval? And if they don’t like the person, why can’t they just keep quiet? They are not in the relationship, what gives them the saying power? So long as the couple is happy, who cares? After all, the couple themselves already have enough trouble, so why add more.
On a side note, overheard this song few days ago in a departmental store. Actually I’ve heard this song quite some time ago, but didn’t really pay so much attention to it until that day. Beginning to love it a lot now.
(I know, this song is totally not related to this blog entry. But who cares?)
Mariah Carey – Bye bye

This is for my peoples
Who just lost somebody
Your best friend, your baby
Your man or your lady
Put your hand way up high
We will never say bye
No, no, no
Mamas, daddys, sisters, brothers
Friends and cousins
This is for my peoples
Who lost their grandmothers
Lift your head to the sky
Cause we will never say bye
As a child there were them times
I didn’t get it
But you kept me in line
I didn’t know why
You didn’t show up sometimes
On Sunday mornings and I missed you
But I’m glad we talked through
All them grown folk things
Separation brings
You never let me know it
You never let it show
Because you loved me and obviously
There’s so much more left to say
If you were with me today
Face to face
I never knew I could hurt like this
And everyday life goes on I wish
I could talk to you for a while
Miss you but I try not to cry
As time goes by
And it’s true that you’ve
Reached a better place
Still I’d give the world to see your face
And be right here next to you
But it’s like you’re gone too soon
Now the hardest thing to do is say
Bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye
You never got a chance to see
How good I’ve done
And you never got to
See me back at number one
I wish that you were here
To celebrate together
I wish that we could
Spend the holidays together
I remember when you used to
Tuck me in at night
With the teddy bear you gave me
That I held so tight
I thought you were so strong
You’d make it through whatever
It’s so hard to accept the fact
You’re gone forever
I never knew I could hurt like this
And everyday life goes on I wish
I could talk to you for a while
Miss you but I try not to cry
As time goes by
And it’s true that you’ve
Reached a better place
Still I’d give the world to see your face
And be right here next to you
But it’s like you’re gone too soon
Now the hardest thing to do is say
Bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye
This is for my peoples
Who just lost somebody
Your best friend, your baby
Your man or your lady
Put your hand way up high
We will never say bye
Mamas, daddys, sisters, brothers
Friends and cousins
This is for my peoples
Who lost their grandmothers
Lift your head to the sky
Cause we will never say bye, bye.
I never knew I could hurt like this
And everyday life goes on I wish
I could talk to you for a while
Miss you but I try not to cry
As time goes by
And it’s true that you’ve
Reached a better place
Still I’d give the world to see your face
And be right here next to you
But it’s like you’re gone too soon
Now the hardest thing to do is say
Bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
Bye bye

3 comments

  1. Relationship is not as simple as just 2 persons especially when it comes to marriage, it’s like involving the whole universe.
    Everything is inter-related which sometimes without us knowing it.
    Especially in the Chinese society, once a lady is married she bear her husband’s surname, if any wrong doings? Alas!…i think the relatives will start to TALK! So, it ain’t just about 2 person AT ALL.
    Daisy´s last blog post..To have kids? Not a prob!

  2. Mintea: Yeah. The thing is, if there isn’t a big problem with the other person, why the need to reject here and there?
    Daisy: But it should be just the 2 person…. right?

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