Time to stop the STOMP culture

If you were active on social media few days ago, I’m sure you’ll stumble upon a Facebook posting about a guy who refuse to give up his seat even though he was sitting on the reserved seat.
When I first saw that post, I didn’t comment or shared it. I knew that there must be another side to that story. And I was right. The guy later wrote on his Facebook that he has a heart condition and wasn’t feeling well that day.
I don’t want to go into detail of who is right and who is wrong. Maybe the guy was lying. Maybe he was being rude. End of the day, it is his words vs her words. But whatever it is, I think one lesson that we should all learn from this is that we need to stop the STOMP culture. Stop taking photo of people and shaming them on Social Media.
In a way, post like these border line on cyberbullying. The Facebook post begin by shaming the guy for being inconsiderate and not giving up his seat to a mother and a baby boy. Then as more and more people commented on the post, it slowly become a body shaming post with people criticising him for being fat and not exercising. How unfortunate.
There is nothing wrong with being fat. What if the guy had a medical condition that prevented him from keeping fit? And how do you think other overweight people will feel when they read the post?
There is no need to take a photo of someone and post it on Social Media. This public shaming culture needs to stop. If that person doesn’t give up his seat then let it be. I’m sure there are many other people who are willing to give up their seats. Maybe he is tired and need the seat too. You never know until you put yourself in his shoes.
It’s time to stop the STOMP culture. Social Media is meant for bigger things. Stop using it as a public shaming platform. End of the day, it does nothing good to the society. All these are border lining on cyberbullying. Stop doing it. If you see someone doing it, do not share or comment on it. Do not encourage this ugly behaviour.


  1. That man could have been more diplomatic, but instead he came across as rather arrogant, if those were his exact words as reported. I am sure he is fully capable of putting it better across. Manners make a man. He could have explained the he wasn’t feeling well and that on other days he had given up his seat to others. Nothing wrong in disclosing that he was not feeling well, we all have out off-colour days too. To say it later in his facebook is a bit too late as it sounded defensive and takes a bit of believing by others. BTW I don’t think he looked unwell in the picture.

  2. George: We won’t know what really happen cause we aren’t there to witness it ourselves. It’s really his words against her words.
    But let’s just say he was really being a jerk and being arrogant. Just let it be. There is no need to take a photo of that person and post on social media.

  3. He really must have pissed her off with his demeanour. It’s her judgement call whether to shame him on social media.
    I agree with comments made by others that someone else could have offered his/her seat to the woman, but obviously no one did. This does say a lot about people today – whether Singaporeans or foreigners.
    Looking at it from the perspective of a bigger picture, its a societal problem. But I wouldn’t be too quick to criticize parents or the schools. If I am to pick on a party to blame, it would be the sort of society we have become and like it or not I think the govt has an undeniable role in this given its well known propensity to social engineer and intervene/intrude into issues that it seems to think would disrupt the sort of law and order and peace it has decided for this place. The generated rat race is certain one such factor.
    Looking at things in this way may strike some as an oversimplification or a gross exaggeration or that it just does not follow. Believe me, it is entirely relevant.

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